My husband and I will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary in September.
He is not a Christian.
How I came to be married to a non-Christian is a whole other blog believe me, so I won't go into it now.
Yesterday I again felt the full consequences of my decision to marry a non-Christian. I again had a very real revelation of what Paul is talking about in 2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness
and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with
darkness?
My New Age mother in law flies into the UK next week and would like to take my eldest two children to the nations New Age capital- Glastonbury. You can imagine my reaction to such a scenario. But hubby as cool as a cucumber can see nothing wrong with it.
Praise God he is a good man. He has agreed for our children to be brought up on Christian principles, and this means he will stand behind any decision I make. The pain of not being on the same page yet again was very real.
It is like a dull ache that comes and goes. Sometimes you don't feel it for months, and then out of the blue, a situation arises and you feel the affects of not having the same world view. My world view is a biblical world view, his is an agnostic one. It has affected every realm of our married life at one time or another.
I would never counsel anyone to marry a non-believer. As good a man as he is (and he is a good man), as great a dad as he is (and he is a great dad), he still does not know Jesus, His truths and this definitely affects our marriage.
It is very true what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 2:14
14The man without the Spirit
does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they
are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are
spiritually discerned. I pray that he comes to a personal knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ, that he has a revelation about his own need for a savior. But ntil that day, I live everyday with the consequences of my actions.
Do yourself a favor.
Read the bible, apply it's principles and save yourself from unnecessary heart ache.
Bless you!
Comments (14)
wise words - thank you so much for sharing this. I've been thoroughly enjoying your posts and your life story. If you're interested in writing for revelife, please let me know - I think what you're posting is awesome and a true blessing!
Wonderful post. Well spoken and clearly communicated. I wish there was some way of opening our young christian women's eyes to this truth. Goodness is not Godness. Somebody can be very good but they will not see the kingdom of God unless they accept his Son Jesus and Salvation through the cross. It's a very hard saying and a very hard truth to live with when it is so close to home and one's heart. I will pray that your H will receive the grace that will bring him to a saving knowledge of Christ. My heart aches with yours on this.
Thanks for sharing! This is always something I struggle with as a single Christian woman. There are so many non-Christians that I would "rather be with" than the Christian guys I know. This post is a reminder of why I don't say yes ... thank you so much for sharing ...
@shanella - You know this is really HARD. My non-Christian husband is far nicer than lots of Christian men I know.... he is a better father and husband than a lot of them too. I REEEEALLLLY get what you are saying. It is very real, raw and authentic to say that out loud.
But ..... all this aside. That dull, spiritual ache is VERY real too.
Pray that God will give you wisdom my gurl, and that the Holy Spirit will strengthen your resolve to WAIT for a man of God. It will pay off in the long run.
Bless you sister!
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@tkperito@xanga - Oh I would love nothing more than to find a way of communicating it to young women. It is very much a desire of my heart.
I really like that quote... Goodness is not Godness. That is sooooo very true.
I always love reading your replies too me, they always speak such homegrown first hand wisdom.
Prayer for hubby is always most appreciated.
That man is going to fall over backwards one day in heaven, at all the people who prayed for his salvation.
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I've dated non Christians when I was a young believer and boy when you are in the relation you become blind, but now that I'm older and married to a believer God spared me some major heart ache but allowed me to learn from my rebellion. God really still speaks big time, strange how I thought of what you just blogged about earlier today. Hmmm wonder what God is saying.
@shanella - I'm with you on this one.
@JSKY9172 - Thank you so very much. You know what, it doesn't matter that I don't know you. God does, and any prayer said on hubby's behalf is ok with me. I really appreciate that. Thanks for coming by.
@Souled_Out - hmmmmmmm I wonder
Blind love can be both a beautiful and hurtful thing! Thanks for coming by.
@adelynne - Thanks so much for coming by.
I hope he does come to know the Lord. It would be interesting to know what made you marry him.
...Lord's pretty awesome at working things out--i don't doubt for a moment that even an "unGodly" good man might be used by Him for good...and that your blessings to come are many...
i think when i was a new Christian, i had the hardest time debating about dating Christians and non-Christians.. this certainly gives me great insight now
thanks so much for sharing.
@jo0o0ey - thanks for reading!
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Praying that your husband will come to know the Lord! :)